It is important that we stop expecting others to show us love, acceptance, commitment and respect when we don’t even show that we possess these ideals for ourselves. We must grow up and take responsibility for our current condition.
“Those who find joy and peace completely within are the truly happy ones. This bliss is in direct proportion to the disentanglement from worldly attractions. Eventually, they actually become one with Divinity, the very Source of bliss that resides inside.”***
Moving Towards Congruence
Have we forgotten the role responsibility plays in social behavior? We can move towards congruence or away. Every decision: To smile at the clerk and say thank you (towards); to grumble at the clerk and frown, or mumble something nasty with hatred (away). Each situation depends on our mental attitude and follow-on actions. If another acts poorly towards us we can choose to return the action in kind or respond with kindness instead. We change the equation, on the spot, in that very moment. (I am not speaking of physical violence; you have a right to protect yourself!)
With each response, we have either negated the negative or depending on the next outcome, turned it to a positive. Every single decision, whether alone in a car, or on a crowded street corner, is about our actions being affected by our internal belief system, which can be simply stated as “Love thy neighbor as thyself!”
Our primary goal, realizing our present condition, is to take responsibility for making the correct choices. Then we must envision how that relates to our future condition. The decision we make today creates that next future. That wisdom either enhances (or detracts from) the harmony in our personal lives. Good choices are the thousand small wins that increase the intensity of our personal “light” each day, which builds confidence and strength. Progress is made through our independent striving for happiness while remembering that for all or our actions there will be reciprocal reactions. Golden Rule. We can create (or re-create) that future, and because we exist within the realm of universal consciousness, we have a responsibility to do that. The Supreme has given us the means to accomplish that purpose. We must, however, take the responsibility for this “pursuit of happiness.”